I was reading “One Small Step to Greater Happiness,” and it reminded me how becoming a mom has made me feel like I missing out on doing things I could have accomplished more easily without a baby. Like going out when ever I wanted to, being away from home longer, planning a vacation, keeping the house organized, working in the backyard, and pursuing my hobbies. But at the same time, I reflect on how much more fulfilled my life is with my son and I think, “What did I do with my life before the baby?” Now I get (almost) the same things done in half of the time because I operate on “baby time” now. Here is the article I was referring to:“If you want to be happier, let go of that feeling that you’re missing out. As one spiritual teacher said, you could sit on the side of the road for five years and your destiny would still find you. You aren't missing out on anything.
Stop worrying about what your life would have been like if you had chosen a different college, career, spouse, neighborhood or weekend activity. You’re already sipping margaritas in Puerto Vallarta—forget the connections you could have made at this year’s conference.
Wherever you are, let go of that persistent, nagging doubt that you should be somewhere else—that you would have been better off if you had chosen the other option. You are exactly where you’re supposed to be right now. Focus on that moment and enjoy it.” © 2009 The First Thirty Days, Inc.